Unconditional Love

There is nothing like unconditional love. There are very few people in this life that will love you this way; Love you through even the worst of times, when your at your ugliest, when there is no hope left, when all has been lost and you have nothing left to give in return. 

You should be so lucky to have even one of these people in your life. I am so blessed, I have a few. My mother, a few lifelong friends who I can count on no matter what and MY HUSBAND!!!! 

Some people get married or are in a relationship for years and "THINK" they have unconditional love coming from their partner but then when times get really bad the truth is revealed. So many people say "till death do us part" but they don't really mean it. 

Well, I have realized so many times in the 17 years I have known my husband that he is the real deal. He loves me so unconditionally it amazes me. I feel astonished that another human could be so good deep down in his soul. He committed his life to me and he meant every last vow. Till Death Parts Us. 

I have known this for years but every time there is a crisis I am astounded again and again by his support. I have had many a breakdown where he sat patiently at my side only listening and doing WHATEVER and I mean WHATEVER I needed him to do including bring me sustenance for days on end in bed, running from  hurricanes ulimately loosing our homes and everything we owned, getting another job because I had to leave mine, through death, family illness, through natural childbirth TWICE soon to be three times, school, overtime, undertime, watching the kids for days on end so I could recover. He has nursed me back to health with nourishment and love when I am sick mentally or physically time and time again. 

When I told him last week about my breakdown and that I wasn't sure I could go back to work at 6 1/2 months pregnant with this much physical illness and mental difficultly. He said even if we lost our house (which is our EVERYTHING) he would support me to the end. He would go to the ends of the earth with me; he would go anywhere with me. 


In the face of all my problems I am so so so so blessed. Yes, times are looking very glum for me right now but I am beyond grateful for my husband. I am honestly in awe of how in the world God blessed me with such a wonderful man. How do I possibly deserve this?  A man who will stick by my side not just through thick and thin but through true tragedy, till the bitter end. 
I never in my whole life even knew that love like this existed. 

Thank you my love for showing me the true meaning of unconditional love. 


My husband is a drummer by trade. It is his everything in life. He lives, eats and breathes music. Like running for me, there are certain "BELOVED, UNATTAINABLE" items that one is always seeking. 

One of those for my husband is a a "K Istanbul Cymbal" made in the 1960's or 1970's (I'm not too sure about the details) These cymbals were handmade, hand lathed in Turkey and there are only a limited number that exist. So basically a vintage, hand lathed cymbal made in Turkey, hard to find and very expensive. 

About 2 or 3 years into our courtship I had been hearing all about these cymbals for years already and I knew one day I would get him one. So one year for Christmas I decided that's just what I would do. I started looking on ebay, really the only market place for such a thing or at least that an inexperienced person such as myself would look. I looked for months and months and months to find the right size and the real deal. 

Mind you, I knew there should be a special "stamp" etc. but really didn't know exactly what I was doing. So when I found the one I wanted,  I placed a bid. I can remember feeling so sick to my stomach as soon as I hit that BID button. It was A LOT of money. I'm not even going to tell you how much now because any person in their right mind would have called me ABSOLUTELY INSANE and lets face it, I am. So for 5 days until that auction ended I was sick, on pins and needles. On one hand I wanted to win so badly but on the other hand I didn't know if it was real. What if I just spent a small fortune on something that was a fake?????? 

Ohhhhh the anxiety!!!! 

SO long story short, I WON the auction, the cymbal came and it was the real deal. Thank God. 

So I tricked my hubby by buying a nice hard carrying case for his cymbals, very carefully unwrapped it, placed the cymbal (the REAL gift inside) and carefully re boxed the case as if it was unopened and new. I wrapped it and gave it to him for Christmas. 

He opened it and was so happy to get the case. Of course he thought that was his gift. Of course I played along. Eventually he opened it and his eyes got a big as saucers. He looked at me very seriously and said "is that what I think it is??" 

And I said YES!! He was speechless. He immediately ran down the stairs and put it on his drum kit and hit it over and over again in all different spots checking out how it sounded. He loved it. He was floored. I was SO HAPPY!! 

mission accomplished!! 

Anyhow, to this day he will probably tell you it is the best gift he's ever gotten. When we ran from hurricane Katrina we only had our absolutely vital possessions like social security cards, our pets and a few clothes but guess what my husband had..............YUP THIS CYMBAL!!!! One of the few things to survive Katrina. 

So the whole point of the story!!!!!!
He loves that cymbal so much that we took it to our jeweler when we got engaged and had them hand lathe my husband's wedding ring into the exact same pattern of that Vintage, handmade cymbal I bought him so long ago! 

He hasn't taken it off since he married me! 


And that may have been the longest post I have ever written! Hope you made it to the end! 
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Alesha said...

Why a sweet story and post. I love hearing other women talk about how much they love an respect their husbands. =) I love my husband so dearly. And best if all, God loves you (and me) unconditionally. <3 Hope you are doing well. You headband is getting sent this week! I wanted to wait until I got my business cards before shipping it!
Alesha <3

SueAnn Lommler said...

Beautiful story...two lives..forever together!
I loved it

Susan said...

Such a great story!!!!

Heather said...

Lucky gal you are to have such an amazing man at your side. I feel the same way about my husband. It's only been 2 years but I can't imagine life without him!! Thanks for sharing the story--I love stuff like that!

Jane Craske said...

Happily made it to the end. Hope that you have your feet up and a kiddo cuddled on either side of you.

It makes such a difference to marry your best friend. We've had quite the year as a family and through it all my husband has been amazing.

Melissa said...

I loved your Post!
you are lucky to have found your soulmate, he sounds wonderful!

Best wishes and prayers!

Yo Momma Runs said...

I love that you were so careful with the cymbal, and then he immediately got it out and banged it! Go drummers! Now that is a great gift!

Marina {Yummy Mummy) said...

That is such an awesome story. Who knew a cymbal could be so SYMBOLic! ;) Love!


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